“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind there are few.” — Shunryu Suzuki.
When I was sorting through some old papers recently, I came across “Empty Your Cup,” one of the best‑loved teaching stories in Zen. I thought I would share it with you in this week’s blog.
Empty Your Cup — The Story
A university professor once visited the Japanese Zen master Nan‑in to inquire about Zen. But the professor was so full of his own learning and opinions that he barely paused long enough to hear a reply.
Nan‑in served tea. He poured the professor’s cup full — and then kept pouring. The tea rose to the brim, spilled over the sides, and ran across the table. Still, he poured. The professor watched in disbelief until he could no longer contain himself: “It is overfull. No more will go in!”
“Like this cup,” Nan‑in replied, “you are full of your own opinions and assumptions. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?”
What the Story Teaches Us
This classic story reminds us of the importance of having an open mind in order to learn. Even when we believe we know a great deal, there is always more to learn. Sometimes we need to let go of old assumptions, unlearn certain habits and release preconceived ideas so that new understanding can take root.
When we cling too tightly to what we think we already know, we limit our ability to see clearly and to grow. In order to receive wisdom, we have to let go of pride and make space in ourselves, just as an empty cup can be filled.
To empty your cup is to set that fullness down and approach a learning or a teacher without the assumption that you have it all figured out. This open, unassuming quality of attention is what Zen calls beginner’s mind (Shoshin).
The Role of Humility
The story also reminds us that humility is essential in learning. It allows us to stay open and curious. It enables us to be receptive to new ideas and deeper understanding.
Humility is a great quality to have and it tends to create an inner peace and confidence. The less compelled people feel to prove themselves to others or seek approval for their accomplishments, the more peaceful and content they feel inside. Ironically, those who resist the temptation to brag or seek praise often attract more respect naturally.
An example of humility in action: Mother Teresa
Mother Teresa is someone who achieved much through humility. She gave up her safe and secure life in a convent to live on the streets of Calcutta, helping the poor and caring for the sick and dying.
She said: “Humility is the mother of all virtues — purity, charity and obedience. It is in being humble that our love becomes real, devoted and ardent. If you are humble, nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are.”
Mother Teresa also suggested simple ways to practise humility: speak as little as possible of oneself, mind one’s own business and accept small irritations with good humour.
Humility Is Strength, Not Weakness
It is sometimes assumed that humble people are passive or insecure, but the opposite is true. They let their actions speak louder than their words. They tend to be calm, considered and quietly confident. This gives them great influencing skills and the ability to persuade and motivate others.
I have found that humble leaders are approachable, great listeners and able to put people at ease. They are open‑minded, seek feedback and engage others. This inspires their teams to put forward ideas, increase results and fulfil their potential. Humble leaders bring out the best in others and help them flourish.
This week, why not pause for a few moments to reflect. Consider where you may need to open your mind to new ideas, fresh perspectives and new learning in the way you approach everyday tasks. Where might you need to empty your cup, even just a little, to make space for something new?
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