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Having time to enjoy the simple and important things in life

I was talking with a client recently who is contemplating leaving their successful corporate career and transition into self-employment.

They feel that it is the right time in their life to pause, re-evaluate, and redefine happiness and how they personally measure success. They told me that they want more time to enjoy the simple things in life and have more quality time with their family. They told me they are planning to experience greater richness in life with less.

During our conversation, the following story about the Mexican Fisherman came to mind and I shared with the client:

A US businessman was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican fishing village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the boat were several large yellow-fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.

The Mexican replied, “Only a little while, senor.” The American asked why he didn’t stay out longer and catch more fish. The Mexican said that he had enough to supply his family’s immediate needs.

The American then asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?”

The fisherman said, “I play with my children, take a siesta with my wife Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senor.”

The American smiled, “I have a Harvard MBA-that’s a degree in business studies – I could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds buy a bigger boat, with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet. Then instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would, of course, need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then Los Angeles and eventually New York City where you would run your expanding enterprise.”

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, senor, how long would all this take?”

The American replied, “Fifteen to twenty years.”

“But what then, senor?”

The American laughed, “That’s the best part. When the time is right you sell your stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.”

“Millions, senor? But then what?”

“Then you would retire, move to a small coasting fishing village, where you could sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife Maria, and stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with the amigos.”

With just the hint of a twinkle in his eye, the fisherman said, “Senor – are these business degrees hard to get?”

How do you define success in life?

Ralph Waldo Emerson defined success in a simple life well lived as:

SUCCESS

To laugh often and much

to win the respect of intelligent people

and affection of children; to earn the

appreciation of honest critics and

endure the betrayal of false friends;

to appreciate beauty, to find the best

in others; to leave the world a bit

better, whether by a healthy child

a garden patch or redeemed

social condition; to know even

one life has breathed easier because

you have lived. This is to have

succeeded.

Why not take some time this week to consider how you personally define and measure success?

This week’s quotation:

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication” Leonardo da Vinc.

To arrange a free no obligation consultation, please contact Stephen Pauley via the contact form or by e mail: Stephen@befirstclass.co.uk

 

Achieve your goals little by little

A client sought my advice recently.They have a fantastic vision for developing a new business but for some reason they are procrastinating and not making any progress or starting to take action to turn the vision into reality.

We spent some time discussing what is behind this lack of activity and why things are stuck. There are a few reasons, which include not wanting to let go of the familiar and move out of comfort zone and a fear of failure. However, the biggest obstacle is that the vision just seems too big and overwhelming.

We agreed that any step would be progress and that a little by little approach would help get things moving. I shared the story of “The Daffodil Principle” with the client as a source of inspiration.

Every year, high in the San Bernardino mountain range of Southern California, five acres of beautiful daffodils burst into bloom. Amazingly, this special spot, known as “The Daffodil Garden,” was planted by one person, Gene Bauer, one bulb at a time, beginning in 1958. This story originally appeared in Jaroldeen Edwards’ book Celebration!

The story contains details of a mother being taken to see the daffodils in bloom by her daughter Julie.

Apparently, Gene Bauer’s house (which was adjacent to the field of daffodils) had a poster on it which said:-

Answers to the questions I know that you are asking:-

50,000 bulbs

one at a time

by one woman

2 hands, 2 feet

and very little brain

Began in 1958

Gene Bauer planted one bulb at a time to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. Still, this unknown, old woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of magnificent beauty and inspiration.

The life lessons her daffodil garden taught are:

• Learn to move towards our goals and desires one step at a time (often just one baby-step at a time)

• Ensure that we get pleasure from and love the doing

• Learning to use the accumulation of time

When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the part of the world that we occupy with our unique contribution.

This is what the mother said to her daughter after seeing the flowers in full bloom:-.

It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Julie, “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!

My daughter summed up the message of the day in her direct way, “Start tomorrow, Mum,” she said, “It’s so pointless to think of the lost hours of our yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson a celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, how can I put this to use today?

What first step could you take towards accomplishing a personal goal or vision that you have?

This week’s quotation:

“Step by step and the thing is done” Charles Atlas

To arrange a free no obligation consultation, please contact Stephen Pauley via the contact form or by e mail: Stephen@befirstclass.co.uk

 

What can you stop doing to create some space for something new?

In last week’s blog, I mentioned that increasingly I am seeing many examples of people feeling overwhelmed and juggling many different priorities, whilst still seeking to sustain high levels of performance and lead a balanced and happy life.

The overwhelmed feeling can prevent clients from starting new pursuits or fulfilling their true potential. They feel that they do not have sufficient time or mental capacity to take on anything new.

When my clients are contemplating starting a new project or pursuing a goal, I suggest that they spend some time considering what they can stop doing to create some space for some new habits and behaviours and provide some room for growth.

Gardeners will tell you that in order to see a beautiful display of roses you have to prune the rose bushes at the right time of year to clear away dead wood and promote new growth

Technology is amazing however it brings its challenges. It is said that the conscious brain can only handle 7 bits of information at any one time and that is a main reason why we can feel overloaded, distracted and lose focus and sight of our key priorities and what really matters to us.

Clients who have compiled a STOP doing lists tell me that it gives them greater clarity and helped to sharpen their focus. They say that It allows them to concentrate on their most important and rewarding activities. They report that it has a positive impact on their energy and motivation levels.

Clients complete lists for both their personal and professional lives.

Here are a few common examples of what clients choose to STOP doing at work:

• Using “ reply all” with e mail

• Checking social network sites

• Engaging in long email threads (they choose to pick up the phone or deal with issues face to face instead if it is possible)

• Turn off incoming e mail alerts/notifications

• Responding to email outside of designated time slots for checking and responding to mail

• Asking for and/or producing reports/management information that do not add value to performance

• Holding meetings with no agenda or clear objectives

• Doing recaps at meetings for late arrivals

• Saying yes too often to requests for help – putting others needs before their own

• Striving for perfection rather than excellence

• Performing tasks that could be automated

• Failing to preserve uninterrupted time for important work projects and tasks

This week, ask yourself the question – What can I STOP doing to create some space for something new?

This week’s quotation:

“Out of clutter, find simplicity.” Albert Einstein.

To arrange a free no obligation consultation, please contact Stephen Pauley via the contact form or by e mail: Stephen@befirstclass.co.uk

 

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