“Together we can change the world, just one random act of kindness at a time.” Ron Hall.
A few weeks ago, the UK Supreme Court ruled that the Prime Minister’s Prorogation of Parliament was unlawful. As such, the House of Commons had to be recalled and sat in session the next day.
I watched some of the proceedings from the Parliament and I was appalled at some of the behaviour, language and disrespect shown by Members of Parliament. It came from all parties and from different sides of the debate. I have to admit that I was a little ashamed to be British. I felt that it might have been better if they had all stayed at home, if that’s the level of behaviour they feel is acceptable.
Great Britain and its people have always been respected throughout the world for fairness, decency and respect for other people’s points of view. We have been trusted to be balanced, respectful and diplomatic. The behaviour that day fell well short of those standards.
Regular readers of this blog will know that I’m a big believer in focusing on the things that you can control and influence in life. Sadly, I can’t control the behaviour of our elected representatives; I can only express an opinion on it.
What I am able to control is how I behave and influence others. So with that thought in mind, I thought I would post an updated version of a blog that I posted previously as the sentiment still seems appropriate.
I strongly believe that the world needs more compassionate and kind people. You can be one of them.
Perhaps we can all learn from the Dalai Lama who, when asked about his philosophy to life said “Be kind.”
It’s true that there is much conflict in the world and lots of negativity reported by the media. It seems to me that we all need to consciously make an effort to be kinder to one another. The world is crying out for a little more kindness and respect for each other.
Research suggests that there are many benefits to us being kind. It makes us healthier, happier and can improve our results. It gives us a greater sense of wellbeing, makes us more emotionally resilient and reduces our stress levels.
People have many different motivations for performing acts of kindness. These can range from the desire to give something back, to helping themselves to feel more purposeful. It can be as simple as wanting to feel good.
A piece of research from British Columbia University suggested that people who were given $50 to spend, got more pleasure from spending it on others than spending it on themselves.
Acts of kindness can take many forms and range from planned activity such as volunteering our time to a worthy cause to more spontaneous acts. It doesn’t have to involve money. There are many simple ways we can all perform small acts of kindness.
For example, we can give a compliment, smile at a stranger, perform some chores for an elderly person, visit someone who lives alone, buy a cup of coffee for a homeless person or donate unwanted items to charity.
We could make a loved one a cup of tea or coffee and do the same for a colleague who is under pressure. We can let someone go in front of us in a queue, give an unexpected gift or some form of recognition or appreciation.
We can be there for someone who is going through a challenging time and actively listen to what they are saying without judgement. This simple act of caring can help someone feel valued and better.
Each act of kindness may seem tiny but it actually brings about change and shifts the way we see ourselves and others. This in turn changes the way that others see us. Kind actions affect people’s lives in a positive way. They may inspire and encourage others to perform some kind acts too.
Kindness can also have the effect of helping us to feel more grateful for what we have in life and optimistic about the future.
Here is an old story about kindness:
The Wise Woman’s Stone
One day a wise woman was travelling in the mountains, where she found a precious stone in a stream. The next day, she met another traveller who was hungry and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food with him.
The hungry traveller saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so immediately and without hesitation, even though she knew how valuable it was. The traveller left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. However, a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.
“I’ve been thinking,” He said, “I know how valuable the stone is, but I want to give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious.”
“What is that?” the wise woman asked.
“Please can you give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone?”
Previously a client shared a fantastic idea with me. They told me that they had decided to spread a little more kindness in the world and set a resolution to be consciously kinder.
This involved them performing at least one act of kindness daily for a month initially. They said that it felt really good to surprise people and to spread a little joy. They created a positive ripple as they inspired other family members and friends to do the same thing.
This week, why not take a moment out to reflect and consider what you can do to bring more kindness and compassion to the world.
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