“When you take care of yourself, you’re a better person for others. When you feel good about yourself, you treat others better.” Solange Knowles.

On a recent flight to Majorca, I was reminded of a metaphor that I learned when I first went on a plane. Have you noticed that when they make the safety announcement the crew always give a specific instruction?

The plane’s crew tell you that in the event of an emergency (when the oxygen mask appears) to apply your mask first. They say that you must do this before you attempt to help others with their mask. The reason for this is that if you don’t have oxygen/energy you won’t be in a position to help others!

It’s imperative, to avoid burn out that we balance the amount of time that we care for others with the time we allocate to meet our own needs. Being well rested and looking after our health means that we will have the requisite energy to help those around us and keep delivering first class results. Sometimes we simply have to put ourselves first so that we can be the best we can be and have the energy to help others.

However, many of us were brought up to believe that focusing on our needs was somehow selfish. A desire to please people can also mean that we prioritise other people’s demands and needs before our own. Therefore, it can lead to feelings of guilt when we put ourselves first. Many people also confess to feeling weak if they show some vulnerability and admit that they need some help.

I tell people that we can all learn about the importance of self-care from the Mother Theresa quote: “If you want to keep a lamp burning you have to keep putting oil in it.” Self-care is not a fluffy concept; it’s about taking responsibility for our physical, psychological, emotional and social needs.

If you’re regularly tired because you have irregular sleep patterns, skip meals or fail to get enough exercise, then start making self-care a priority. Many people prioritise others needs in front of their own, as they feel it self-indulgent to put themself first.

In order to maintain good health, it’s vital that you put some time aside and adopt some habits to take care of yourself. 

The phrase self-care has gained in popularity over recent years and reminds us of the importance of taking care of our needs, so we can be the best we can be. It prompts us to take care of our physical needs (getting enough sleep, right diet, regular exercise etc.); emotional needs (asking for help when needed); mental needs (stimulating job, interests, personal development etc.); spiritual needs (time for prayer, meditation etc.).

Having good self-care also helps us to maintain good health and this should be a good incentive to look after ourselves. In life having good health is the real wealth.

Here are a few self-care tips: –

  • Keep hydrated. Drink plenty of water – the recommended daily intake is 1.5-2 litres a day.
  • Good regular sleep. Aim for good quality sleep of 8 hours a night.
  • Strengthen boundaries. Decide what your limits are, communicate these to others. Get clarity on what you will and won’t tolerate. Get comfortable saying no to demands on your time.
  • Eat 5 pieces of fruit or vegetables every day.
  • It is recommended that you undertake 30 minutes of physical exercise every day. This doesn’t have to be a visit to a gym, walking is good for you.
  • Put some time aside to watch some funny movies or comedy shows and have a good laugh. Humour helps you feel good, more relaxed and energised.
  • Avoid negative people and environments that drag you down. Ensure that you spend time with people who radiate energy and help you increase your energy levels and not deplete them!
  • Give up being a people pleaser. Be kind to yourself and ensure that your self-talk is encouraging and positive.
  • Unplug from technology on at least one day a week. Give your brain a rest and be in the moment.

 
This week, why not pause for a few moments to reflect and consider if you need to take any action to put your needs first more often. Also think about what personal steps you need to take to create more energy and balance in your life.

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